What I learned. When my life warrented a good woman she was my backbone when life kicked my back out. Father dont ever think that the mother of you children will never pop up again. You can never be a mom not even on you best dad days. Remember that all children (unless a tradegy) have two parents. Its hard for any single parent to raise children alone. So give your children a future hope for them and their mom, not you. Then your children will respect you. Heal.