If your made it past your teenage years and are now responsible for your own life and lifestyle, then listen to this. The mindset or perception you use to provide a great life for yourself and others around you is vital. I know you hear about postive thinking and spiritual stuff,  and you might think thats what men do that can't handle themselves or others. Or the mindset you have might be I got to get mine. Plus the ever so obvious thinking the world owes you something and it's everybody elses fault I'm not doing well, whaa, whaa, whaa, ( shut it!!). Look we all know life is difficult and we also  know hard heads make a soft behind, so lets reason with this not argue or debate. Get the facts of life for men, fathers, big babies and people with disinformation. As long as I ran on my own fuel I never had peace, stabillity, respect, and a whole host of other good things going on in my life. It was always something else going on. As soon as I thougth I new all the answers they changed the quetions again. I believed it was all a game and I could beat it one day. Then one night in the middle of a mental and emotional delema (# 700) I made a decision to do what a friend of mine was doing and working for him. In short he told me to surrender and give all my problems to God. I challenged God, asking if he was real could he handle what I could'nt and also why would he, noboby else was even willing to help most days. Short story long he did and still is doing. If you received this message get alone and pray and say Lord help me, mean it and he will plus more.